February 24, 2001

Sai Gon, February 24, 2001.

Mang Cau (soursop) in the far basket & Thanh Long (dragon fruit). Fruit vendors line the streets in Saigon.© 2001 Hong

After brunch with my grandmother today, I went into town to meet my friend Minh Nhu at Dong Du Cafe (my Di (aunt) 10's cafe). We took a walk to the Saigon Market where I got a few great pictures of the people selling fruit on the streets, we walked along the streets, and Minh Nhu was so happy; she said no one in VN ever wants to walk anywhere. We also browsed the embroidery shops, of which there are many, and then she drove me on her Honda to Tib for dinner. Tib is my dad's uncle's restaurant (he and his wife actually live in Montreal but come here often, and they are good friends of Di 10's). Tib is actually their daughter, my dad's cousin. Anyway, it was a good dinner, and then we went to drop off my roll of film. When I get the shots, I'll try to scan & email them soon.

There is a wonderful fruit here called Thang Long which is a fuschia colored pod about the size of a small pineapple with bright chartreuse tentacle-like "leaves" that grow out on its side. Inside it is white and peppered with small black edible seeds like kiwi. It's texture is like a soft pear, and it's flavor like bland kiwi. Very strange! It comes from some sort of cactus. I got several pictures today of fruit stands so you can see yourself.

Last week I went with my aunt to see a house/restaurant of a friend of hers. It's a little bit away from the city, and you enter on a dirt road through a jungle of palm trees to get to it. Once there, you find yourself in the midst of a lavishly landscaped garden with the restaurant to one side, another bar & restaurant area and outdoor patios that are covered with thatched bamboo leaf rooftops. The Sai Gon river runs behind it, and there is a small dock to step out on (if you are covered in insect repellent). If anyone comes to visit, it's a must see garden. While my aunt was with her friends in the restaurant area, Thanh took me to see the gardens and described all the trees for me, which included a mango tree, jackfruit tree, and a variety of others that I can't remember. When we saw the jackfruit tree, he showed me the leaves so I could see what shape they were (in reference to the quote about the eyes).

February 23, 2001

Sai Gon February 23, 2001. Today I had a simple day -- had breakfast & a cup of joe, and went to work on a Honda. My friend Lan at work (who shares my office with me and is the sister-in-law of the boss) is very sweet and drove me home today (well, her driver did). It turns out that my Uncle A has operated on her 5 times since she was 3 (she's now only about 21 or 22 and had her lung partially removed). Uncle A performs 2-3 surgeries per day, everyday. He's paid a couple of hundred dollars a month. He's a pediatric specialist and the medical director of the Pediatric Hospital in Saigon. Dr. A performs surgeries from gastrointestinal to cardiology to you-name-it. I'm told he's in the Guiness Book of World Records for having separated siamese twins in which both twins survived, and that the surgery time was a record 18 hours. My uncle is famous throughout Asia, and is renowned in the international medical arena, and knowledgeable beyond the pediatric sector. He offered to let me go into the operating room any day if I want to -- I just don't know if I want to. He carries a lot of weight here since he's the guy the officials pick to have operate on any of their own family members in any case.

I stepped into a peacefully quiet home (in which I am now blaring U2) while all the aunts are off in HaNoi. I spent about an hour with Ba Ngoai, my grandmother, who wants me to tell Dad that she misses you very very very much (she started to cry when she told me so) and she told me that since I am here, you must miss me and be sad that I'm gone, so it makes her sad for you that I'm here. But then she said that now that I'm here, she's so happy, and if I leave her, that she'll be sad. So I said, "Ngoai (grammy), I'm screwed. If I stay you're sad for dad and if I go you're sad for yourself." She laughed. Even though I've got cousins here, they didn't grow up with her, so she's not very close to them. Though they love her very much, they have a more formal relationship with her -- one in which she is a respected elder. Not that I don't respect my elders, but I have a different kind of camaraderie with my elders that I think some people here think is odd. I tend to joke and tease in a way that is nearly inconceivable to my cousins. I might occasionally walk a fine line on the brink of disrespect (though not intentional). My excuse is that I'm American.

I forgot to mention the play I saw the first week I was here. It's called "12 Bis May Man." Bis is the Vietnamese way of saying "Encore" and "May man" can be translated roughly to "lucky." It's a comedy based on the unlucky 13 (which is lucky in Italy, by the way), and I was surprised that I actually understood most of it. My mom explained many of the puns for me, though, since I don't quite get all the slang & expressions.

The other day when I was having dinner at my Uncle Minh's house, another Uncle (the husband of my second cousin once removed) asked me "so your brother is Hong Khac what?" It's really strange that a stranger would know my brother's name, but in context, it's actually not odd at all. Dad's name has a very interesting history to it. All sons of all Hongs are given a middle name which indicates their generation. There are eight generation names which are then repeated in a cyclical fashion. My grandfather and all his brothers and all his male cousins were given the name Hong Quang ______. My dad, all his brothers, and all his cousins are given the name Hong Giu (Du) _____. My brother, and all my cousins are given the name Hong Khac (in Lobo's case, it is Hong Khac Huy), and so forth. I'll have to find out what the rest of the names are in the cycle from my Chu (which means Uncle for your father's younger brothers) Minh (who is Hong Du Minh). It's all very cool. At the wedding last week, I met a woman who was married to a Hong Khac and knew my mom and my Aunt 9 since they were kids. Because she was married to a Hong Khac, she realized that she was a relation when she met my mom and dad back in the 60's since dad is a Hong Giu (which then changed her status of being a friend of my mom's to a "niece").

Not much else to report, except that today is a vegetarian day. One eats vegetarian on the beginning and middle of every Lunar month for Vietnamese Buddhism, which follows the Lunar calendar. I also learned that Vietnamese age is higher than American age. For one thing, since it's 2001 and I was born in '73, I'm considered 28 no matter what month I was born. In addition to that, the Vietnamese consider your time in the womb a year, which makes you a year old when you're born, which makes me 29 in Vietnamese years. I also discovered that since I was conceived in the year of the Rat and was born in the year of the Ox, then I have the tail of a rat and the head of an ox (I'm mixed) though most of my year was in the year of the ox. Talk about identity crisis.

February 22, 2001

Saigon, February 22, 2001.
After work yesterday, Thanh (Aunt 10's driver) came by and picked me up in a car loaded with my aunts and Uncle Thai, husband of aunt 8 (from Orlando), and the whole gang went to my Uncle Minh (younger brother of my Dad's) house for dinner. There, we were met with a few other members of my dad's family, and I also met one of my cousins for the first time (whose sister I met two weeks ago at the Saigon Market). He had actually been to the States a few times for business, and has met Kaly before.

We had about six courses, most of which were regionally Hue, where my father and Uncle Minh are from. Hue was the last Imperial city of Vietnam whose imperial courts were served by my paternal grandfather (who passed away around 1950). Dinner started with rice noodle cakes (banh hoi) with ground shrimp sprinkled on it, followed by a crab & quail-type egg (I don't know what kind of eggs they were) soup, then a kind of sea bass served with vegetables and white sauce, continued with pepper sauteed crabs (cua rang muoi) which are about 2x the size of U.S. crabs, and finished with a plate of steamed rice mixed with multiple marinated meats and vegetables, then che for dessert which I passed (I think it is made of lotus seeds). Hue is renowned for its foods and especially for the presentation of foods. Because of its imperial history, the people of Hue are all sophisticated in the art of eating well.

We were then brought up to a room in the house complete with surround sound, projection screen, DVD, and VCD entertainment system which made up our karaoke evening (which didn't last too long, as all the aunts wanted to head out for some live music elsewhere). I have discovered, however, that karaoke is a great way of learning how to read vietnamese -- the words are highlighted as they are sung aloud, and if I keep up, I could be reading in no time (I am now able to read with about 80% accuracy, though I don't understand what I'm reading).

I cabbed it home from dinner (I had enough live music for one night), and took note of the enormous luminated neon billboards that shine across the Saigon River visible from District 1. Saigon is split into several districts; 1 and 3 are the most commercialized (District 1 is where my aunt's Dong Du Cafe is and I work in District 3). Saigon is much more commercialized than we imagine in the west. The billboards read Mercedes-Benz, Heineken, LiOA Cable, LG Electronics, Tiger Beer, and others. In the middle of the city, there are neon billboards for Pepsi, Philips (as in the electronics), and many other big name brands. It is starkly contrasted with the people who lie beneath them on the roads.

Thanh drives me to work every day, and if we leave early, he takes me on the Honda (all references to Honda henceforward and backward are two-wheeled motorbikes even if they're not Hondas) which I love riding although I can't help but to think that it shortens my life expectancy as cigarette smoking would. Saigon is incredibly polluted. Today Thanh got to go home to see his wife & four kids who live an hour and a half away. He sees them in the middle and end of the month for 3 nights/2 days at a time. Since we had the wedding on the 17th of the month, he did not go home and will take 4 days off now instead. My aunts and mom are all going to Ha Noi and Ha Long for 4 days and I was supposed to go with them, but will not this time, mostly because of work, but also because I don't think I can handle the lot of them for 4 days straight since they are so very loud and collectively indecisive. I have opted to go at a later time with my uncle Tony if possible, and I'm planning on going to Phan Thiet, my mom's birthplace, in mid-March when The Guide goes to print, and before my mom returns to the U.S. This way, I also get to spend some peaceful time with my grandmother this weekend, and I will be having lunch on Sunday with my cousins Dung & Lily who are my Uncle 2's daughters. I got invited to a wedding on Sunday by a sweet girl at work, but will pass since I don't think I'd be comfortable yet and since Uncle 2's family is coming into town.

Oh, my odd sighting of the day today was this morning when Thanh drove me to work. In front of us was a Honda, and hanging on either side of the rear of it were two brown wicker baskets, hanging much the way bike panniers would, connected by a wooden bar stretched across the seat, like a scale or balance. In each basket were about 6-8 white feathered ducks whose heads and bright yellow beaks and black beady eyes stuck out, each piled upon the other, and all very crammed in the baskets. All of a sudden, I realized that not only were they real, they were alive and quacking. I wish I had a camera to take the shot, but then I also realized that they were probably off to be roasted by afternoon (sorry Lori).

Enough for today. Tomorrow the aunts go out of town, and Thanh has arranged for another driver to come pick me up in the morning to take me to work. I'm looking forward to the peace and quiet this weekend will bring, and plan on going into town and taking lots of pictures. Do keep writing me. I love hearing from you, and please forgive if I cannot write back.
Oh, and another discovery -- Sai Gon is really two words.
Much love
Hani

February 18, 2001

Sunday, February 18, 2001
After 2 days of wedding ceremonies, I sit here relaxing in comfy western clothing. Yesterday I had to wear a red and gold silk Chinese style dress that mom had made for me last week and today I wore my white ao dai that the bride had made for me. My cousins laughed at the way I sat on it -- you're supposed to take the back portion of the dress and swing it over your lap when you sit (it's the traditional Vietnamese dress worn with pants), and i kept tripping over it, too. I'm an extraordinary klutz here in Vietnam, not to mention lacking in grace and girlishness.

Last night at the wedding reception, I met one of my father's brothers, Chu Minh, for the first time, and several other family members and old grade school friends of my mother's. No one thinks I look vietnamese -- they say I look lai, which means mixed, since I have big eyes and white skin and a high nose (I'd say big). Of course, it's rather the opposite in the US -- the tanner, the better.

Holy shit. They're playing "Knock 3 Times" on the CyberCafe's system right now. Dad used to play this when we were just kids. The Vietnamese's taste in music has not changed in 25 years. They're constantly playing oldies and they looooove Elvis and Kenny G.

A Vietnamese wedding reception is quite an odd spectacle. Usually, the cake is fake, except for the top layer for cutting. Luckily, my aunt went with class and we had a real 5 or 6 tiered cake decorated with fresh white and light colored roses. There were about 200 people at the wedding, and it was a 6 or 7 course dinner served rather nicely, although some guests tend to bolt as soon as the eating's done. There's also a great deal of singing done by guests. Luckily, the ones that sang last night actually knew how to do it well. The wedding was today, after the reception last night because today was rated as a "good" day on the Chinese calendar for my uncle to be married. It starts out with everyone in the groom's family gathering at his home. We then all carry large trays of food and gifts and wine, or trail along behind those who carry these trays, and parade to the bride's home to properly pass the bride over into our family. When we arrive at her home, we're seated, she comes out, there is a ring ceremony, and then a tea ceremony between the groom and the bride's mother and the bride with the groom's mother and the representative head males of the families (in this case, a great uncle and fellow whose relation I do not know on the bride's side). A few speeches by the elders, and then we pack up and head back to the groom's house for more speeches, gifts, and another reception. We've been busy! (well, busy eating...)

I have been working for a week now for a company that puts out a tourist guidebook, and I was also offered a job working at the Vietnamese-English School to teach children English as well as to do their marketing. I haven't quite turned them down, but will request a teaching position in the evenings if I can. I don't know enough about the Vietnamese marketplace to do their marketing. Everyone has been incredibly hospitable here, and I feel very at home. With so much family nearby, I feel very close to many people who are virtually strangers to me. My cousins are very sweet, and I've also met many uncles, aunts, second, third, and fourth cousins, great uncles and aunts, cousins several generations removed, and so on. It's quite confusing, but I'll eventually draw a family tree.

Today I ate a new fruit called mân, also known as pomme-rose and originated in inda. It is sort of like an apple, but more sour, harder, and well, different. It was harvested from my Ong 10's (great uncle 10's) garden in Phan Thiet, which is a small town north of Saigon, where my mother was born & raised. I'm hoping to take a weekend trip up there sometime soon. I've also tried several other new foods, and my mom and I always think of my dad 'cause mom says, "oh, your dad used to really love eating this." I eat extra for him.

Lately I've been able to read and write better in Vietnamese. My vocabulary grows by 2 to 4 words a day, and I learned a new saying that Thanh, my aunt's driver, taught me. I had asked why everyone says I have big eyes, and why is that good? He said, "mat la tre chong de chong danh, mat la mit, chong hon, chong hit" which translates to "eyes the shape of bamboo leaves, husbands opress and hit, eyes the shape of jackfruit leaves (round leaves), husbands kiss and [vietnamese] kiss." Lucky me. Thanh is great; I spend a lot of time with him in the car when driving my aunt around, and he teaches me how to read and write. I read all of the street signs all day long. Imagine hearing "gas pump. Parking. Refrigerators sold here. Guests welcome. Vendor specializing in Electronics. Travel Agency. Vehicles with 2 or 3 wheels only." And so on. He knows the answer to everything, and he's a true jack of all trades. I really enjoy talking with him, 'cause he's infinitely patient, kind, and knowledgeable.

Life lately has been good, but it was unbearably hot today. Yesterday was not too much cooler, and my cousins Ti & Trung who are visiting from San Jose, CA, and I took a ride on a cyclo -- the 3 wheeled bike carts in which the driver sits in back and cycles you around town. We got a picture of me sitting on it and one of Ti, too. If I can scan it I will. All I can think of is, "Hani: AIDS Ride Vietnam." Oi. It's really too hot for that here! The cyclo driver rode us around town for about an hour and pointed out all the general sites in Saigon. The people here try very hard to be as helpful as possible while making a living. The cyclist also told me to keep my bags and parcels and cameras inside the seating area since honda drivers tend to swerve by and grab your bags (and knock you over in the process).

Enough babble. Please continue to write me with the updates of your own living experiences as I miss the States very much.

Love to all.
hani

February 11, 2001

February 11, 2001. Saigon, Vietnam.

Yesterday I took my first thrilling ride on a Xe Om - xe means "vehicle" and om means "hug" - in other words, a 2-wheeled Honda on which I hug the driver if I want to stay on. It's a trip to be had at least once in Vietnam, since the Vietnamese care not for red lights, one ways, or any rules of the road. It's quite a talent to be able to drive here. You should see six-year-old kids crossing the street - it's like crossing a six lane highway during rush hour with no pedestrian paths.

Forgot about the other job offer; I got a second one on Friday to be Creative Director for a guidebook in Vietnam, and I have an interview at the English school tomorrow. I'll work on the guidebook awhile, and see what else comes up. The Vietnamese businessmen are cunning and somewhat conniving. All big talkers; I'm watching out for myself, but I also know that what comes around goes around. If I get cheated, I don't really mind since I'll just gain from the work experience I'll have here. I've learned how to read fairly well in the last week, and so my writing will improve if I practice. At work, everyone speaks to me in Vietnamese, and though it's difficult, my vocabulary is increasing day by day.

Yesterday I ate a fruit called mang cau -- soursop -- and on the outside it's green & yellow, really lumpy (like a bunch of grapes would be if they were sealed under plastic wrap), but on the inside, it has a flesh similar to pineapple and a flavor that crosses between pineapple and well, I don't know?The flesh has large black seeds that slide right off. It's refreshing and tasty. I also had Vietnamese grapefruit for the first time yesterday and it was amazingly good. The grapefruit here is unusually large, and I recall my dad's stories of playing hookey from school playing soccer with grapefruits in lieu of soccer balls.

This morning mom and I had facials and foot massages for about $15 USD total. The girls there kept telling my mom, what nice eyebrows she has" and then one asked me if I "had family" ?it's their way of saying "are you married?" No way, I said. People keep asking me that. Then when I say no, they ask me if I'm still living with my parents (that's what unmarried children do here). Life is either easy or hard here; it's difficult to accept. You see so many poor people begging on the streets, sleeping under tarps, and little kids trying to sell packs of gum or other knickknacks. Smoking is allowed everywhere; in fact, the guy next to me in the internet caf?is doing it as I write.

Tonight we go eat in the Caravelle Hotel to test its wedding dinner menu (it's where my uncle is getting married on Saturday). It's a world famous French hotel that has been here forever. Right now, they are building a movie set just outside of it, and Michael Caine and Brendan Fraser are starring in it ?"The Quiet American" or something like that. My aunt's ice cream shop is on the road in back. The Vietnamese don't understand how such an intricate set can be built just for a movie, only to be torn down. Alas, they need it to look like pre-1975 Saigon, and the entire budget is a mere $30 Million USD (labor's cheap). By law, no one is allowed to check into hotels under assumed names, so anyone can call the hotel and request Mr. Caine or Fraser's rooms.

Met a few more family members in the last few days. I ran into my great aunt today at a restaurant in town. This morning we ate a delicious plate of mien cua - vermicelli noodles sauteed with lump crab meat, and another dish that is made of fried yams & shrimp. Drank fresh squeezed orange juice and a cup of ca phe sua da - iced coffee, vietnamese style. There's much more to tell, but I can't recall so I will leave off for now. Till next time, glad you're keeping in touch. h.

February 07, 2001

Saigon, February 7 2001
I can’t remember what day it is anymore, as I’ve nothing really to keep track. I also can’t remember what I’ve already said, so if I repeat, please forgive. Did I tell you we’ve got apuppy in the house? Just a few weeks old and my aunt paid $3 USD for it – her butler/house guardian told her she overpaid. There are two pekingnese (sp.?) in the house too. One I call Quasimodo – it’s gotten into two fights and has lost an eye and its face is totally disfigured – it’s actually very cute in an ugly kind of way. :)

This morning when I got up, my aunt 9 joined me at the table and told me that since my room is upstairs, and my bed below the roofpeak, I should not sleep below the peak, as it is bad luck. Mom says that’s why I’ve been waking up with headaches. I’m supposed to sleep to the side of the roofpeak, rather than directly below it. The Chinese say so, I’m told.

Did I also tell you that I met lots of family? Last week I met my Uncle 2’s wife, Aunt 2, and their 4 children – my cousins – Pinky, Lily, Tu Bua, and Tuyet Dung. They’re very sweet, but shy, and I have trouble communicating. Pinky has 2 girls, and Tu Bua one, so they are my nieces. It’s very weird – the 8 year old was teaching me Vietnamese (they of course, all speak much better than I). Then last night, I met my dad’s first cousin, and her mother – my dad’s aunt (my grandmother’s sister/ my greataunt). She’s so cute – at 94, she still has perfect hearing and good eyesight, no teeth. I love old asian people – they are so damn cute. She recognized my mother easily and then looked at me and said I look just like Ong Cam – I don’t know who that is, but I think it’s a great uncle of mine.

Yesterday my aunt 10 decided she would buy a refrigerator to keep upstairs in her “apartment” – the entire upstairs has an open terrace with beautiful garden. She wanted a refrigerator up there so she and I could keep some food upstairs so we could have breakfast on the open terrace. Anyway, the guy who delivered the fridge delivered it on his 2-wheeled honda motorbike – with one hand holding the fridge on his seat and the other hand navigating through the traffic jungle. No bungees, no cords, nothing! They just carry the fridge with one hand! My aunt says they do the same thing with televisions, ovens, whatever.

This afternoon I have to go to the tailor. My new aunt (my Uncle Tony’s bride) bought some Vietnamese silk and brought it to him to make me a new ao dai, the traditional vietnamese dress. Mom took me to another place where I’m having another dress made. It costs about $30,000 VND for labor to make a silk shirt. That’s about 2 dollars and a few cents.

Had a lunch interview with a US Viet Kieu (it’s what they call vietnamese people who have “come home.”). He wants me to be the Marketing & Graphic Design manager of his company. I’m still trying to figure out what he does! I also just met a guy here from Chicago who has friends at J Walter Thompson, and I think Bates Worldwide. Never hurts to make contacts. It’s hard for me to do business in Vietnamese with my limited vocabulary, and in business, it’s certainly different! The gentleman I met this morning speaks English though, so he helps me understand. My aunt 10 joined us for lunch – she said she was embarassed because I eat so much – he said never mind, he likes that.
Can’t help it if I eat twice my weight. By the way, today we had fresh raw fish (along with about six other dishes). By FRESH, I mean FRESH. The fish had been sliced readily and the slices were placed on a bed of ice. The rest of the fish was placed on the plate, full fish (head and all), with it’s side sliced. What a shock it was to me when I saw the tail flop and the fin flap!!!! OI! I ate it anyway (It didn’t wink at me so…)

My sisters have been forwarding my emails to everyone for me, since I’m unable to send so many out myself, and have trouble connecting to hotmail. Anyway, sorry for the mass mailing, but it’s the only way I can manage to get this out. I will try to post to www.hanihong.blogspot.com instead, so you can read it freely there. My sister Souris is also going to post my alaska ride pictures for me on www.gatherround.com, so if you get check and only see a few pictures, try again when she has post them. There should be at least 40 images. Oh, by the way, please do not send me any forwarded mail to my email. It’s difficult to get through the email here, so I can live without. THANKS.

I miss the U.S. and most of all New York (next to my dad, of course). Will write again.
Cheers.
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Saigon, February 6, 2001. So I’m sitting here in an internet cafe across from the ice cream shop. Connection rate is still 14.4 I think. It’s unbearably slow. I keep forgetting to mention all the funny stuff I see. For one thing, Vietnam is full of creepy crawlies – we’ve got lizards and ants and mosquitoes in the house – and it’s an air conditioned and luxurious house.
This morning we had a nice bowl of noodle soup (bun bo hue) and then fresh fruit - papaya and mangoes and vu sua (“breast-milk”) as opposed to sua vu (breastmilk). Vu sua is a fruit that has a milky flesh, hence its descriptive moniker. We then drank fresh coconut juice out of, well, coconuts. Oh, and yesterday, mom and I had fresh squeezed sugar cane juice from the street vendor. We had our taxi driver pull over on the street while the vendor squeezed it for us into plastic bags, complete with straws and banded shut with rubber bands. I haven’t gotten sick from any of the food or vegetables, or even the meat, but I’m going to steer clear of most meat we encounter. I happened upon the meat department in the huge Saigon market, a sight you should not see. People are on raised platforms with their slabs of meat hanging on hooks. It’s freakin’ 90 degrees outside. It’s an outdoor market. Needless to say, other bugs and mosquitoes all around.
Cyclo drivers sleep along the sidewalk when they’re off duty, and crossing the street is far more harrowing than in NYC any time of the day. There are no street lights, and no regards to the painted lines – you often find yourself facing oncoming traffic whether on foot or driving. Most amazing is the sheer number of 2-wheeled Honda motorbikes and cyclists who all “share” the road. No one wears a helmet, and sometimes, you see little 2 and 3 year old kids clinging on for dear life. I can’t even begin to imagine what might happen if they fell asleep in the back seat.
must run now.
xxo
hani
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Vietnam. February 5, 2001.
I'm well, I'm eating well, and everything is somewhat as expected. Di 10's house is beautiful and large, though her taste in art varies from beautiful to tacky. My room is a loft area with a living room, and cherry wood floors and a window facing the front yard. The moon shines directly through it late at night. The river runs behind the house, and the cross breezes are wonderful. Di 10 had an air conditioner installed for me the day I arrived. Whenever she wants anything - curtains, furniture, mirrors - she calls for custom orders. My coffee is made for me every morning. Espresso.

There are many things that are odd and most notably, the money. I traded my aunt a $20 USD for $280,000 today. It costs about 70 cents to have shoes repaired, and a bowl of noodle soup costs about 70cents as well. The employees at my aunt's restaurants work 28 days a month, 8 hours a day and are paid $50 USD a month. It is a much sought after job, because it is relatively high pay. There is a lack of respect for privacy. No one has any sense of personal space (they are very pushy people). Everyone talks very very loud (it must be in the genes), and we eat all day long.

The first day I arrived, mom gave me 2 bucks to tuck into my passport when going through customs (I told her not to try this at home). It helps reduce questioning, and then they let you through. When we picked up our baggage, all we had to do was explain that Di 9 (aunt 9) is Mme. A (My uncle A is a famous doctor) and we were let through. Also, to get through to my aunt's house, there is a toll booth - you have to pay 10,000 dollars to get through with a ticket (equal to about 70 cents) and then on your way out, they give you 5,000 back. If you just give them 2000 or so, they'll let you through, and pocket the cash so you don't get anything back on the way out again.

My second day here, we had to set up an altar to commemorate my great-grandmother's death and pray for her in her afterlife. The whole family came over, and we had a very large banquet. My aunt 9, who is a palm reader (my great uncle was famous for his sixth sense and used to read the President's palm) made a deal with me that if I teach her English, she'll teach me how to read palms. Sounds like a good deal to me.

Everyone makes fun of my Vietnamese, though they then contradict and tell me it's very good (especially for someone who left VN at 18 months). They also tell me that I look really young (I've heard anywhere between 10 and 20) and that I've got nice eyebrows. Funny people.

So the other interesting thing is that here in Vietnam, everyone looks alike!!! I'm not kidding. And the weirdest thing is that I look like them too! But I keep forgetting that I do. But as soon as I open my mouth, they know I'm a foreigner. The other weird thing is that in my family, my siblings and I used to use Vietnamese to talk about people in front of us. I can't do that here, because it's not a secret language over here. It stinks.

I think I might have a job teaching English at the university nearby. I met one of my aunt's business friends today at her ice cream shop and she happens to be friends with the director of the University so I'm going to hand her my resume. So far so good. Good food, good company, and maybe a job.

It's super hot here, but at night, we get a good breeze and it's nice and cool. It's not as bad as New York was in the summer of '99. I'm loving it so far, and think I might stay a while. We will travel to the north and central highlands after the wedding on the 18th. My new aunt (my uncle's bride) is ordering a traditional vietnamese ao dai to be made for me. Must be off now.
Ciao tutti.
hani
Saigon
I can’t remember what day it is anymore, as I’ve nothing really to keep track. I also can’t remember what I’ve already said, so if I repeat, please forgive. Did I tell you we’ve got apuppy in the house? Just a few weeks old and my aunt paid $3 USD for it – her butler/house guardian told her she overpaid. There are two pekingnese (sp.?) in the house too. One I call Quasimodo – it’s gotten into two fights and has lost an eye and its face is totally disfigured – it’s actually very cute in an ugly kind of way. :)

This morning when I got up, my aunt 9 joined me at the table and told me that since my room is upstairs, and my bed below the roofpeak, I should not sleep below the peak, as it is bad luck. Mom says that’s why I’ve been waking up with headaches. I’m supposed to sleep to the side of the roofpeak, rather than directly below it. The Chinese say so, I’m told.

Did I also tell you that I met lots of family? Last week I met my Uncle 2’s wife, Aunt 2, and their 4 children – my cousins – Pinky, Lily, Tu Bua, and Tuyet Dung. They’re very sweet, but shy, and I have trouble communicating. Pinky has 2 girls, and Tu Bua one, so they are my nieces. It’s very weird – the 8 year old was teaching me Vietnamese (they of course, all speak much better than I). Then last night, I met my dad’s first cousin, and her mother – my dad’s aunt (my grandmother’s sister/ my greataunt). She’s so cute – at 94, she still has perfect hearing and good eyesight, no teeth. I love old asian people – they are so damn cute. She recognized my mother easily and then looked at me and said I look just like Ong Cam – I don’t know who that is, but I think it’s a great uncle of mine.

Yesterday my aunt 10 decided she would buy a refrigerator to keep upstairs in her “apartment� – the entire upstairs has an open terrace with beautiful garden. She wanted a refrigerator up there so she and I could keep some food upstairs so we could have breakfast on the open terrace. Anyway, the guy who delivered the fridge delivered it on his 2-wheeled honda motorbike – with one hand holding the fridge on his seat and the other hand navigating through the traffic jungle. No bungees, no cords, nothing! They just carry the fridge with one hand! My aunt says they do the same thing with televisions, ovens, whatever.

This afternoon I have to go to the tailor. My new aunt (my Uncle Tony’s bride) bought some Vietnamese silk and brought it to him to make me a new ao dai, the traditional vietnamese dress. Mom took me to another place where I’m having another dress made. It costs about $30,000 VND for labor to make a silk shirt. That’s about 2 dollars and a few cents.

Had a lunch interview with a US Viet Kieu (it’s what they call vietnamese people who have “come home.�). He wants me to be the Marketing & Graphic Design manager of his company. I’m still trying to figure out what he does! I also just met a guy here from Chicago who has friends at J Walter Thompson, and I think Bates Worldwide. Never hurts to make contacts. It’s hard for me to do business in Vietnamese with my limited vocabulary, and in business, it’s certainly different! The gentleman I met this morning speaks English though, so he helps me understand. My aunt 10 joined us for lunch – she said she was embarassed because I eat so much – he said never mind, he likes that.
Can’t help it if I eat twice my weight. By the way, today we had fresh raw fish (along with about six other dishes). By FRESH, I mean FRESH. The fish had been sliced readily and the slices were placed on a bed of ice. The rest of the fish was placed on the plate, full fish (head and all), with it’s side sliced. What a shock it was to me when I saw the tail flop and the fin flap!!!! OI! I ate it anyway (It didn’t wink at me so…)

My sisters have been forwarding my emails to everyone for me, since I’m unable to send so many out myself, and have trouble connecting to hotmail. Anyway, sorry for the mass mailing, but it’s the only way I can manage to get this out. I will try to post to www.hanihong.blogspot.com instead, so you can read it freely there. Oh, by the way, please do not send me any forwarded mail to my email. It’s difficult to get through the email here, so I can live without. THANKS.
I miss the U.S. and most of all New York (next to my dad, of course). Will write again.
Cheers.

February 06, 2001

Saigon
So I’m sitting here in an internet cafe across from the ice cream shop. Connection rate is still 14.4 I think. It’s unbearably slow. I keep forgetting to mention all the funny stuff I see. For one thing, Vietnam is full of creepy crawlies – we’ve got lizards and ants and mosquitoes in the house – and it’s an air conditioned and luxurious house.
This morning we had a nice bowl of noodle soup (bun bo hue) and then fresh fruit - papaya and mangoes and star apples, called "vu sua" meaning "milk of the breast." Vu sua is a fruit that has a milky flesh, hence its descriptive moniker. We then drank fresh coconut juice out of, well, coconuts. Oh, and yesterday, mom and I had fresh squeezed sugar cane juice from the street vendor. We had our taxi driver pull over on the street while the vendor squeezed it for us into plastic bags, complete with straws and banded shut with rubber bands. I haven’t gotten sick from any of the food or vegetables, or even the meat, but I’m going to steer clear of most meat we encounter. I happened upon the meat department in the huge Saigon market, a sight you should not see. People are on raised platforms with their slabs of meat hanging on hooks. It’s freakin’ 90 degrees outside. It’s an outdoor market. Needless to say, other bugs and mosquitoes all around.
Cyclo drivers sleep along the sidewalk when they’re off duty, and crossing the street is far more harrowing than in NYC any time of the day. There are no street lights, and no regards to the painted lines – you often find yourself facing oncoming traffic whether on foot or driving. Most amazing is the sheer number of 2-wheeled Honda motorbikes and cyclists who all “share� the road. No one wears a helmet, and sometimes, you see little 2 and 3 year old kids clinging on for dear life. I can’t even begin to imagine what might happen if they fell asleep in the back seat.
must run now.
xxo
hani

February 05, 2001

First Impression

Vietnam.
I'm well, I'm eating well, and everything is somewhat as expected. Di 10's house is beautiful and large, though her taste in art varies from beautiful to tacky. My room is a loft area with a living room, and cherry wood floors and a window facing the front yard. The moon shines directly through it late at night. The river runs behind the house, and the cross breezes are wonderful. Di 10 had an air conditioner installed for me the day I arrived. Whenever she wants anything - curtains, furniture, mirrors - she calls for custom orders. My coffee is made for me every morning. Espresso.

There are many things that are odd and most notably, the money. I traded my aunt a $20 USD for $280,000 today. It costs about 70 cents to have shoes repaired, and a bowl of noodle soup costs about 70cents as well. The employees at my aunt's restaurants work 28 days a month, 8 hours a day and are paid $50 USD a month. It is a much sought after job, because it is relatively high pay. There is a lack of respect for privacy. No one has any sense of personal space (they are very pushy people). Everyone talks very very loud (it must be in the genes), and we eat all day long.

The first day I arrived, mom gave me 2 bucks to tuck into my passport when going through customs (I told her not to try this at home). It helps reduce questioning, and then they let you through. When we picked up our baggage, all we had to do was explain that Di 9 (aunt 9) is Mme. A (My uncle A is a famous doctor) and we were let through. Also, to get through to my aunt's house, there is a toll booth - you have to pay 10,000 dollars to get through with a ticket (equal to about 70 cents) and then on your way out, they give you 5,000 back. If you just give them 2000 or so, they'll let you through, and pocket the cash so you don't get anything back on the way out again.

My second day here, we had to set up an altar to commemorate my great-grandmother's death and pray for her in her afterlife. The whole family came over, and we had a very large banquet. My aunt 9, who is a palm reader (my great uncle was famous for his sixth sense and used to read the President's palm) made a deal with me that if I teach her English, she'll teach me how to read palms. Sounds like a good deal to me.

Everyone makes fun of my Vietnamese, though they then contradict and tell me it's very good (especially for someone who left VN at 18 months). They also tell me that I look really young (I've heard anywhere between 10 and 20) and that I've got nice eyebrows. Funny people.

So the other interesting thing is that here in Vietnam, everyone looks alike!!! I'm not kidding. And the weirdest thing is that I look like them too! But I keep forgetting that I do. But as soon as I open my mouth, they know I'm a foreigner. The other weird thing is that in my family, my siblings and I used to use Vietnamese to talk about people in front of us. I can't do that here, because it's not a secret language over here. It stinks.

I think I might have a job teaching English at the university nearby. I met one of my aunt's business friends today at her ice cream shop and she happens to be friends with the director of the University so I'm going to hand her my resume. So far so good. Good food, good company, and maybe a job.

It's super hot here, but at night, we get a good breeze and it's nice and cool. It's not as bad as New York was in the summer of '99. I'm loving it so far, and think I might stay a while. We will travel to the north and central highlands after the wedding on the 18th. My new aunt (my uncle's bride) is ordering a traditional vietnamese ao dai to be made for me. Must be off now.
Ciao tutti.
hani